Divorce Filings Increase by 1/3 in January.
Be Prepared for Divorce Monday!
It’s been determined that women file 80% of the divorce cases. That is likely the reason for the extreme increase in filings in January.
“The surge happens on Divorce Monday,” says James McLaren, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, and partner at McLaren & Lee, a legal firm in Columbia, S.C. “We see a significant increase in people seeking out divorce advice and, ultimately, filing. The number of filings is one-third more than normal. That begins in January and probably goes into early March.”
Think about what happens during the two months preceding Divorce Monday.
In November you have Thanksgiving. If you’re having relationship problems, you’re not likely to be so thankful, and on that holiday you have to put on a happy face for your own family and likely your spouse’s family too. You may start to think about what you aren’t thankful for and that begins to fester.
The following week the December holiday preparation begins. If you haven’t already, you’re spending time buying gifts for kids (if you have any), and maybe both sides of the family, and friends/co-workers. Then there’s the party and meal planning and decorating.
With each step closer to the holiday, you may be feeling that angst that began to fester at Thanksgiving time, and it builds with each day as the holiday approaches. The thought of spending time with the in-laws (I call them the out-laws) and keeping up that happy facade with the fake smiles becomes overwhelming.
But you bite the bullet and somehow get through the whole ordeal. By then you’re feeling so deflated and the tensions have been building to the point of explosion.
New Year’s Eve is probably the worst night of the year for anyone considering divorce, where the love light has gone out and the thought of continuing to live together just doesn’t seem feasible anymore.
I know from personal experience and from the barrage of requests for help I got on New Year’s Eve 2016. That night, in response to a Facebook post I got over 800 frantic emails and the volume crashed my website! The women I heard from were frantic, and had no idea where to start.
In many cases they were ready to put the cart before the horse but they didn’t take that misstep because we put our heads together and came up with the ideal solutions specifically for them.
You Have Choices
You can worry about it and let it bring you down lower and lower until you feel so lost you become paralyzed, OR you can get yourself prepared so you feel more confident, less stress, and plan for a shorter and less conflicting and costly divorce process.
Sound too good to be true? It’s not! Since divorce is 90% finance, I can help you get a handle on what you have and what you’ll need to land on your feet after divorce, or even if something unforeseen happens and you’re on your own or your spouse becomes disabled.Understanding your finances now is a win-win situation.
Once you’re set up you can relax, knowing you’re ready for anything.
Not Ready To “Pull the Trigger?”
But what if you’re considering divorce and don’t really know for sure if you’re going through with it now, or even at all? Then you’re in the ideal position.
You can take your time and get yourself ready just in case. You never know, your spouse may be contemplating the same thing and you don’t want to be caught by surprise!
I’ve seen women ambushed with divorce, and it’s not pretty.
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